Saturday, April 28, 2012

My Type of Parenting, Part 3

Part 3 of My Type of Parenting is related to sleep.  This one is pretty controversial. 

First, I do not believe in CIO, or crying it out.  At least, not yet.  There is a lot of information out there showing that an infant younger than 6 months cannot manipulate.  When they cry, it is because they have a need that needs to be met.  And yes, cuddles and skin to skin is a need.

·         Some research shows that CIO can lead to the baby having emotional attachment    problems that can follow them for life. 
·         Neurons actually die.
·         The child can develop mistrust.

The popular book “Becoming Baby Wise” is a book about getting your child to fall asleep on his or her own.  They try to teach you about putting your child on a schedule for eating and sleeping.  This may sound nice, but in reality Baby Wise has caused infants to develop Failure to Thrive.  And the authors have many lawsuits against them because of it. 

This is where Tanner’s pediatrician and I disagree and many others as well.  (This is related to the 4-month wakeful many babies go through where they don’t sleep and eat all the time). She says Tanner eats often during the day, he should be able to go X hours a night without having to eat.  No.  During this time in Tanner’s development he is learning and growing.  He looks at things and studies them.  When he eats he often gets distracted, so he eats more often.  So when it’s nighttime and he is in a nice, quiet room he will realize he played so much during the day that now he is hungry.  If I followed Baby Wise because I am selfish and lazy and I just want to make my baby fall asleep so I can sleep, he wouldn’t be able to eat when he was hungry.  His pediatrician said he should be able to go over night without eating.   When Tanner wakes up in the middle of the night, he is hungry.  I feed him and he immediately goes back to sleep.  I signed up for this mothering business.  I will wake up and take care of my baby in the middle of the night anytime he needs it.  Even if it is 4, 5, 6 times a night. 

**Disclaimer: I know some babies and some circumstances call for CIO.  I understand some babies are very high needs and for the sanity of the parents they have to walk away and leave the crying baby alone for a little while.  This is not my circumstance. **

Now, for controversial part 2 of this post.  We co-sleep.  Now before anyone freaks out there is a difference.  Co-sleeping is when the baby is in a bassinet, crib, co-sleeper, or pack n play in the same room as the parents.  Bed-sharing is just that, sharing the bed with the baby.  (And there is a safe way to bed share. We just don’t do it full time.  I often nap with Tanner in my bed, but I am doing it safely).

I knew I wanted to co-sleep from the very beginning.  Obviously it makes middle of the night feedings easier on all of us.  I can hear Tanner stir and can get to him before he gets too woken up from crying.  And keeping him in the dark helps him fall back to sleep right away.  But it also can help prevent SIDS.  Mothers have that special instinct with their children.  Some moms can tell when their child has shallow breathing.  I can sleep through Nick’s alarm and when he gets up and ready for work, but I will wake up to Tanner playing with his feet.  It’s amazing. 

We don’t have a crib for Tanner here in San Antonio, he is still using his pack n play.  He will be 7 months old when we get back to Oklahoma.  But I don’t think I will transition him to the crib at night for a few more months after that.  I had considered it, but I keep hearing stories about babies several months older than Tanner now dying from SIDS.  I will take it one night at a time though, probably.  If he seems ready for it when we get back to Oklahoma, then so be it.  I do have to admit I love having him in our room.  I can wake up in the middle of the night and see him sleeping soundly, and I feel better.  

Friday, April 27, 2012


Last week we took Tanner to Sea World.  It was our first trip to an amusement park as a family.  Tanner was so good!

He loved the Shamu Show.  He stood on my legs and actually watched.  He even sang along with the music (that boy loves music, I tell ya!).  He napped through the dolphin/beluga whale/diver show, but Nick and I enjoyed it. 

He even liked the shark/aquarium exhibit.  I’m sure it was the colors, but he stared and smiled the whole time.

Nick and Tanner fed the dolphins too!  I did too, but I didn’t like the pictures, so I didn’t add them.

Nick bought Tanner a dolphin puppet and he loved it!  Of course he loved the tag on it just about as much as the puppet itself.

I fed him twice, and no one said anything to me about it.  No one judged, gave me the side eye, or any dirty looks.  I was a successful trip!

Overall, Sea world and the rides and attractions it had were for much older children, but I think Tanner really enjoyed it.  He even slept 7 hours that night.  The first time since the beginning of February.  

Friday, April 20, 2012

My Type of Parenting Part 2

Cloth Diapers

Part 2 of my type of parenting is about cloth diapers.  I know some people think reusing diapers (washing poop in your washing machine, touching dirty inserts, the laundry, so many types…)is just too much to deal with.  I use to be one of those people.  I was in a way interested because I know it’s cheaper in the long run than buying disposable diapers until baby potty trains.  But I was simply so overwhelmed.

I seriously have to thank my friend, Stephanie, for spending the time to message me info on them.  I took what she told me and researched on youtube until my eyes hurt. 

We are, however, still using disposables at night time because I haven’t found an overnight diaper that I like yet. But I can NOT wait to get rid of them completely.

There are so many reasons why I cloth diaper now.  Everything is written out beautifully on this website.  You should definitely check it out.

·         Good for the environment
* Billions of diapers are used every year, and they just hang out in landfills.  And these diapers may take up to 500 years to decompose. 
* I love not having so much trash to take out too. 

·         Cheaper in the long run
* It is a little pricy to start your diaper stash. But they end up paying for themselves when you don’t have to pay for disposables every week.
* You can re-use them for future kids!  So essentially your next kid(s) will be diapered for free.
* You can buy them used.  Which means you can sell them as well.  So you can make some of the money you spent on them back!
* One problem though, they are so cute and there are so many different kinds that buying them can be incredibly addicting!

·         Healthier
* There are so many chemicals in disposable diapers.  Dioxin, Tributyl-tin, and sodium polyacrylate.  You know those little gel things that puff up when wet.  Yeah, I’ve been finding them on my little mans bum in the morning when we switch to cloth for the day. 
* Nick and I took a disposable and held it under the faucet, just for fun.  That thing held so.much.water!  That just can’t be safe.
* There is also a new study out that shows prolonged use of disposable diapers in little boys is linking to infertility because disposables hold in heat so much more than cloth. 

·         Comfort and less mess
*Tanner has yet to have diaper rash. I doubt using cloth is the main reason for this, but I’m sure it doesn’t hurt. 
* I have more blow outs in disposable than I ever have had in a cloth diaper.  And now that Tanner is a little bigger I haven’t had ANY messes!
* They are bulkier than disposables, which is a nice little padding for Tanner’s bottom when he starts walking/falling. Haha

·         Just plain adorable
*I mean, really.  I’ve never seen a baby not look cute in cloth.

·         Also:
* Babies who wear cloth usually potty train earlier/easier than those who wear disposables.
* The laundry really isn’t that bad. :)

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

It's been a long week!

A lot has happened since I posted last.  Tanner had his appointment on Monday the 9th.  He is still my little peanut, but he has done so well.  He is 13.6lbs and 24 inches.  He was in the 8th and 9th percentiles for height and weight, and now he is in the 21st and 29th.  His head circumference was 16.5 inches, which is the 44th percentile.  

He did so well during his shots.  And I did better than I thought I would do as well.  (His daddy held him the last time).  The first two shots in his one leg barely phased him, but the one in his right leg made him cry pretty hard.  He immediately stopped once I snatched him up in my arms.  

This was right after a short nap after shots.

Tuesday I signed the lease for the larger house on base.  It will be our home, because we know we will be there at least 3+ years.  It was hard living in a house knowing you're going to move soon.  You just can't make it homey.  The movers came at 1pm and took 6 hours to load up their truck and move one street over and unload the truck.  And this is when Nick and I packed EVERYTHING up in boxes and had it all out in the garage already.  Al the furniture was moved into the living room as well.  I have no idea why it took them so long to do that.  Crazy, but at least it's done.  I definitely wouldn't have been able to do it all with Tanner needing my attention as well.  

Roses outside of our new house.

I spent the next couple days cleaning the old house to make sure it passed inspection on Friday.  Luckily it did, and I left for Texas at 2pm. Really bad weather was headed into Oklahoma at the time and I really wanted to miss it.  I drive through OKC during rush hour, in torrential downpour of rain, with the sky as dark as night.  I was so anxious, and felt so sick.  Come to find out I drove through one of the cities minutes before they had a tornado.  My saving grace was Tanner.  He slept through it all.  He was actually only awake maybe an hour of the entire 9 hour drive.  He did stop for dinner (Nick drove up from San Antonio to meet us half way-I was afraid of stopping in the middle of the night to feed Tanner alone).  He was an angel!

Dinner at Cracker Barrel

We got to San Antonio at 1:45 in the morning.  Tanner fell asleep at 3.  I'm so proud of him!

It's been a great week so far! I love being in a large city.  Mostly because there is Target. HAHA!

Sunday, April 8, 2012

4 Month Photo Dump

We have his 4 month appointment tomorrow, so I'll post stats then.  He's mad right now, so gotta go! Happy Easter!

Thursday, April 5, 2012

My Type of Parenting Part 1

I loved the idea of writing about the type of parent I am/want to be.  I got the idea from a couple of blog momma friends I have online. So, thanks girls!

Judge me if you must, I couldn’t care less.  Obviously parenting styles vary so much and some things don’t work for some people.  These things work for us.  I wouldn’t change a thing.

I feel so passionate about this, and feel very blessed that this is working for us.  After having a hard pregnancy, a very difficult 47 hour labor, a delivery that I do not remember, and an aggravating recovery (an incision that is STILL not healed completely) I can’t be too bitter.  I was never one for the “dream birth” experience.  I knew what was going to happen would, and I would just go with the flow.  The one thing I wanted most was to be able to breastfeed my child. 

You could say I did a ton little bit of reading and researching during my pregnancy on various things.  The number one thing I wanted to do was breastfeed.  There are so many reasons why.  I read books, searched message boards, and followed lactation consultants on facebook and twitter.  I wanted to gather as much information as I could stuff in my brain. I really wanted this to work.

**In no way am I bashing formula.  I know not every mother is able to breastfeed, and it’s a difficult journey for others. I was formula fed and I turned out just fine. These are just my thoughts; reasons why I choose to breastfeed.**

My desire to breastfeed started when I read my first breastfeeding “how-to” book.  I learned how breastmilk is basically “liquid gold”.  It has all my antibodies against illnesses and keeps Tanner’s immune system strong.  It also can cure pink eye, eczema, scratches, cradle cap, and so on.  It’s so healthy for him.

Not to mention, it’s free.  I don’t have to buy formula every week.  I don’t have to buy, sterilize, make, heat, clean, or store bottles.  It’s extremely convenient.  I have food for Tanner with me all the time. 

Although the health aspect of breastmilk is wonderful, it’s not the best reason why I chose to breastfeed (see, no formula bashing here). The best reason, for me, is the bonding aspect I feel I get with him.  That, and the amazing fact that my body can care and provide what my son needs to live.  It blows me away.  God is so good!

The main reason why I wanted to post this “series” on my blog is because most of the parenting things I do are considered controversial to some people.  Definitely not to the majority of my friends, but there are people out there that ruin good things. 

And with that being said, I’m extremely disappointed in our American society. Apparently breasts are only meant for sexual purposes.  Even though they were MADE FOR FEEDING OUR CHILDREN.  I’ve had numerous friends tell stories about how people judge them for breastfeeding.  Mostly for breastfeeding in public.  How extremely hypocritical is that?!  No one ever gets on to women feeding their babies with bottles.  Women nursing are glared at and whispered about.  There are even the bold people who will straight up and tell the nursing mother to go to the car, or to the bathroom to feed her child because it’s “disgusting”, or “inappropriate”.  And can you believe the majority of judging people are other women!  I’d love to tell them to go eat their lunch in the bathroom!

I was so scared to fly home back in February because I knew I would need to feed Tanner in the airport and on the plane.  But now, after almost 4 months of successful breastfeeding I don’t care.

 I am covered when I am in public, which is my personal preference.  Although I give high praise to those women who do it uncovered.  Tanner is at the age where he likes to pull the cover off, but that won’t stop me from feeding my baby anywhere he decides he wants to eat. 

Next post in my little “series” shouldn’t be as long as this one.